Wedding Day’s are huge, feeling anxious is perfectly normal!
If you are already pre-disposed to feeling anxious or suffer with anxiety, a wedding might seem overwhelming. Even if it’s supposed to be the best day of your life. Looking after yourself, your mental health, and emotional wellbeing is so important! Here are some reminders, and great ways to take care of you in the run up to the big day.
It doesn’t have to be a ‘big’ day
Don’t feel pressured into throwing a huge celebration if you don’t want it. Remember that this is your special day. If you hate being the centre of attention, and dislike fuss, then avoid it. Choose to celebrate in a smaller, and more humble way. Opt for a small family ceremony and reception, inviting only those closest to you. Feel comfortable surrounded by people you love and trust. It makes all the difference. Share the day with a smaller group of the most important people to relieve some of your nerves.
Remember it’s okay to feel overwhelmed
Don’t underestimate yourself. It’s okay to suddenly become completely overwhelmed, out of the blue. Allow yourself to take it all in, and give yourself some credit. You are making a huge commitment to somebody else, and whilst that’s amazing, it’s also huge. Don’t feel pressured into jumping into wedding planning! There’s no need to catapult yourself down the aisle immediately. Take your time, and become comfortable with your new life path. There’s nothing wrong with a long engagement!
Take a day off
Go for a mani/pedi, or a kick-around at the park with your friends. Spend the night in with a couple of beers and a takeaway, and binge watch the second season of Stranger Things. Visit your mum for a cuppa and a biscuit. Lounge around in bed with Netflix and some snacks. Anything… do anything. Just take the day away from the chaos of everyday life and wedding planning, and relax. Enjoy a chilled out day, or get your glitz on and enjoy a night on the town. Alone, or with friends/ your partner, it doesn’t matter. Give yourself some breathing room! Give yourself a break!
Meditation and Yoga
Breathe. Relax. Feel better. Mediation and yoga are top of the agenda for mindfulness and self-care. Download one of many free apps to your smart phone or use YouTube to find a guide that’s suited for you. Find everything from breathing techniques for anxiety, to help with falling asleep. Take 15 minutes first thing in the morning or last thing at night depending on your needs, and go somewhere quiet. Plug in your headphones and immerse yourself in a serene, peaceful vibe. Close your eyes, and follow the instructions of your chosen guide. The idea is to destress your body, take your mind away from stress, and revitalise your body and fill you with positive energy. Change your mindset and relax your body for a good nights sleep, or to face the day positively and with a zest for life!
Get a massage
Stress takes it toll on you physically. Treat yourself to a massage to get rid of those achy and painful muscle knots that particularly linger around your upper back, shoulders and neck. Pay for a professional to work out those knots, or ask your partner for a bit of pampering. Set the tone with some relaxing music or nature sounds, and burn incense or candles with a gentle fragrance. Switch off for an hour and let someone do the work for you. Not only will your body thank you, but massages often help relax and rejuvenate the mind too! PS head massages are also amazing!
Don’t feel like you should be doing everything alone. People will want to help! Say yes- when people offer to run errands for you or do little jobs. It’ll massively reduce your ‘to do’ list, and relieves some of the stress on your shoulders. Besides, mums love to be a part of the planning process, so they’ll feel extra valued if you task them with some of the smaller responsibilities. Trust your Maid of Honour to look after your bridesmaids, and your Best Man to direct your groomsmen. Focus on the things about the ceremony that are important to you, and anything that someone else can do- allow them to do it!
Feeling anxious about your wedding day? Or did you get the nerves?
Let us know how you are coping/ how you coped with wedding anxiety and jitters by dropping a comment below. We’d love to hear from you all!